While everyone is busy enjoying gifts (me included!), it is uplifting to think of one of the most precious gifts we can give to people we love: forgiveness.
To forgive a friend for something they’ve done wrong is quite special. It is easy to love someone who helps you; it is harder to love when someone has hurt you.
The quote my dear wee sis supplied encapsulates a similar idea quite well:
Loyalty is rare. It can only be proven under test.
Alfred Armand Montapert
The test of loyalty is how ready we are to forgive the wrongs, and continue to trust.
Sometimes I find the hardest part of forgiveness is being able to forgive without neccessarily acquiescing with something done wrong. e.g. swearing is offensive to me, but my ‘forgiveness’ is often invisible when people are so oblivious of it nowadays.
Not that forgiveness needs to be seen in order to matter, but silence can be taken as a lack of complaint, or worse, a license to continue the offence. And then, positive criticism is hard to give. Not that that would justify us in holding grudges instead of forgiving, but it can be a tricky balance to keep right!
But so very worth getting right 😀 There’s little as precious as friends you can rely on, even when you make mistakes. “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. ” [Ephesians 4:32]
Then, lest we should lose sight of the most miraculous forgiveness of all: God offering to forgive us for *everything* we do wrong:
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. [1 John 1:9]
Finally, a little ponderment:
Can we ever truly forgive someone who we do not first love?